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Re: “The Poly Life

MonoPoly relationships rarely work out. Polyamory isn't about stepping out and making someone deal with it or change.

Polyamory is about the ability of anyone to completely open their heart to more than one person. That doesn't mean you go around screwing the first person you see and torture your spouse. That is cheating. It means that you both live in a state of love and support of each other.

To have a successful MonoPoly relationship , both primary partners need to be on the same page. The Mono partner has to be just as supportive for the Poly partner's lifestyle as the Poly partner is supportive of the Mono partner.

The Mono partner does have a limited circle to rely on for help with the relationship, because most in the Mono community won't even try to understand why one would stay in a relationship like that and therefore the Mono partner would shun advice from Poly friends that understand the dynamics better.

The Poly partner has all types of support because they have friends and partners that understand the dynamics very well and would like to see all of the Poly partner's relationships grow and flourish.

It makes it hard to succeed, if the Mono partner takes the advice to not listen to "excuses", to not trust the Poly partner, to think of them as a cheater, liar, and every other bad name in the book.

Honesty is the key. Not brutal honesty. Keep your partner filled in on basic particulars but not necessarily all the details. Tell them if you are fluid bonded or protected during sex. Find out about whether your partners have been tested and what if any STI's they have. Ask to see tests. (I tell people straight up that I have HSV 1&2. Most (about 80%) have #1 about 30-40% have #2.) I am not scared to be honest and open. You need to be that honest, if you are going to be successful.

Posted by aprius on 09/27/2015 at 8:28 PM

Re: “Surviving is One Part Of it

the comment on carl shooting the ceiling okedoke but the roof of the mouth is something you wouls see back in the day oa Al-pacino but basically further like the cambinos, dalucas, etc. and bevin spendind more time with his kids than his dad spent with him would be obvious to most anyone. We all rey to raise are kids a little different than we were raisede but Carl a public figure makes him sound like a bad dad. And sure he was at times. this might help what I'm trying to say. I for instqant Worked at St. Joseph Hospital for the medical director Dr. Billingsley back i the day Barbg Lindula was ther executive sec. and me and Beverley work at the Drs Message Deswk. Thats back in 81-82 etc When drs. had there oown parking lot and gate card to get in. There first stop inside was usually me BHecuz I had all the patients surgurie4s admits, room changes etc. Well whenn you work for the medical director he is in charge of those drs. from everything to meetings, there problems with mal-practice, drug and alcohol addictions and blah blah blah. It6 not only taught me confidentiality but it made me realize Drs. aren't god as most see them. they are human too. Just like a pro boxer, attorney or public figure. thanks bevin cuz I hope you read this Barbara Glass

Posted by Barbara Glass on 09/20/2015 at 1:42 PM

Re: “Image Conscious

Beautiful show. Very well cast. And just perfect.

Posted by River Hopkins on 09/17/2015 at 10:24 PM

Re: “Image Conscious

Privileged to see a preview of the show. So much fun! The cast did an amazing job and the costuming is perfect.

Posted by grannyferg on 09/17/2015 at 10:39 AM

Re: “Small Towns 2015: Small Town, Big Hearts

Pappy Boyington, also a St. Maries-ite.

Posted by Grassymountain on 09/12/2015 at 11:53 PM

Re: “Lost in Translation?

While Duncan gardens and othe manito spaces are looking as good as ever the current state of the Japanese gardens is depressing. The Japanese garden used to be an adventure over stepping stones and fun shaped colorful bridges through a mythical wonderland of perfectly cared for plants and trees pruned to impossible perfection. It was like stepping into another world and was always full of happy guests. Now it's just a circular path surrounded by overgrown plants. Save for the pond and koi fish it now looks like any other northwest forest and attracts far fewer people. Seeing it in this run down shape on my latest trip to Spokane made me sad. Maybe it now has three postcard viewpoints, but it's lost its magic.

Posted by Brian Vincent on 09/08/2015 at 8:07 PM

Re: “'The brutal fact remained: I was not good at my job'

I know this feel. Though, I wasn't fired from my janitor job, I quit. I quit to pursue my passion of graphic design, of which I am currently getting my bachelor's degree for. I think everyone needs to have a short bout of the hard times to truly appreciate the here and the now. :)

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Posted by Dayna Mowery on 09/07/2015 at 9:56 PM

Re: “'Customers ... swoop in like a tornado, leaving your sorted stacks of thongs in a hopeless heap'

I keep waiting for Victoria's Secret to reduce the price of thongs and call it a "Whale (Tail )of a Sale"!

Posted by muddydog on 09/07/2015 at 9:27 PM

Re: “COMEDY | World's Hottest Comedian

I swear that I have never heard of this guy.

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Posted by Zaggy on 09/06/2015 at 5:13 PM

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